Love & Compatibility Articles
January 10, 2012 | Julie Redstone
Our most intimate experience of self is often that of what we need, wish for, or want, and so it is natural for us to imagine and hope for what we desire in another. Sometimes this wishing comes from our better self - the part that knows what we truly need and has higher aspirations for ourselves and others. But sometimes we wish for less than what is good for us, and more of what is comfortable or reassuring for us in the moment.
This dilemma of 'need' and 'want' often gets projected onto relationships in which we want the 'other' to be who we want them to be or need them to be, rather than who they are. When tendencies are strong in this direction, we no longer see another as who they truly are. Rather, we see them through the prism of our own fears and projections. This creates a great burden for relationships, since mutual projections of one onto the other prevent the natural expression and evolution of intimacy and shared growth. They bring the relationship into a more perilous place of trying to satisfy the immediate needs of each person - needs that are not fully disclosed. Such relationships may be considered 'karmic relationships' rather than sacred relationships, (if we are speaking of the consciousness in which they are held, rather than the innate sacredness of every relationship), for they are based on the unconscious needs and fears of each participant, often carried from lifetime to lifetime and projected into each new situation.
January 9, 2012 | Barbara Rose, Ph.D.
1. What is a "Sacred Relationship"?
A Sacred Relationship is one where all of the encoding on the cellular level from the eons of conditioning among humanity are now evolving to "catch up" to your spiritual evolution.
What this means is that the roles men and women have played are now coming up to the Light to be "re-adjusted" and awakened on all levels.
This is a time of great transition, as the old and outmoded ways of belief and actions are consciously replaced with a spiritual harmony, respect, and gender neutral preferences. What I mean by "gender neutral preferences" is that you are to view each other as pure spiritual beings, without all of the games and programming that have not served you well in the history of humanity.
November 30, 2011 | Allie Ochs
It is surprising how many writers, psychologists, or scientists have made it their life's work focusing on the gender differences. In our male-dominated society it is no coincidence that men have undertaken the bulk of this work. They made an effort to help men and women get along, but deep down the sexes are much more alike than the world cares to admit.
Today, most believe that men and women are significantly different in every respect. The focus on these differences has divided men and women, instead of bringing them closer together. More importantly, it discourages both sexes to grow and unify on a human level.
Still viewed as the inferior sex, women feel compelled to assume utopian attributes such as nurturing to the extreme and giving to the point of running empty. Women are expected to live up to the expectations of their families, employers and society. To add to their burden, they ought to stay slim, sexy, attractive, loving, caring and emotionally balanced. In their attempts to meet these expectations, many women lose their identities, values, self-worth and even their minds.
November 30, 2011 | Allie Ochs
Anybody can find a date. If you have a computer, you've got a date. You know how it works: sign up, write a profile and the highway to passion is yours. Once set up, the system should work like a charm. Someone should respond and viola, you've got a date. In the real world we blow it!
Dan and Linda exchanged meaningless e-mail chatter forever, but learned nothing about each other. Dan doesn't know that Linda is his mother's age. Linda has no clue that Dan lives with his girlfriend. We exhaust our energy by e-mailing with people whom we would never introduce to our parents.
September 24, 2011 | Shakti Carola Navran
Millions of people around the world have become aware of the Law of Attraction since the publication of the book and release of the movie The Secret. In this article I will review the basic principles of the Law of Attraction and teach you another secret: how you can bring even more powerful results into your life by using quartz crystals to enhance the process of manifestation promised by the Law of Attraction.
Your Thoughts Determine Your Life
In a nutshell, the Law of Attraction says that the reality that we experience in our lives-our degree of happiness, success, love, and abundance-is determined by our thoughts and emotions. Whatever you focus on most intently in your thoughts, whether good or bad, more of that comes into your life, which we call manifestation.
September 20, 2011 | Molly Owens
Do you know the number one factor couples cite as crucial to their satisfaction with their relationship?
That's right, it's good communication. There are so many issues couples can disagree about-money, children, in-laws, work-but whether or not these issues become problems depends on how well you can communicate.
If you have serious communication issues, you may need couples counseling. But if your relationship works most of the time, but you occasionally find yourself at a dead end when talking to your partner-or if you sometimes just find yourself saying, "What can he be thinking?!"-then improving your understanding of each other is the key to making your relationship even better.
We often marry people who are very different from ourselves, and this can be the perfect choice. If we find a partner who excels in the areas where we're weak, that can make for a great team. Problems can arise, however, when it comes to understanding each other's thinking. Here's an example:
September 6, 2011 | Molly Owens
It's the classic story of the Odd Couple: she's the life of the party, while he gives any excuse to leave early. He's orderly and fastidious, while she leaves milk on the counter and clothes on the floor. He's logical, she's emotional; he's from Mars, she's from Venus. Much is made of the idea that opposites attract, and we all know at least one of these "odd couples" that makes a relationship work despite major differences. But is it true that opposites attract? And more importantly, what makes for the most successful relationship-a stimulating opposite or a comforting soul mate?
Many researchers have set out to answer this question. In order to classify their subjects' differences, compatibility researchers often use Myers-Briggs personality typing. The Myers Briggs Type Indicator® is the most widely used personality inventory in the world, and provides an easy-to-understand basis for studies on compatibility. The Myers-Briggs theory asserts that our fundamental differences in thinking, making decisions, and organizing our lives can be understood by measuring our preferences in four key areas: